How to attract women – the 5 key things to remember!
So you’re ready for your Speed Dating or Singles Event, all keyed up and wanting to impress and to attract women.
But what are the next steps? What is going to make you one of the most popular guys at the event and get loads of dates or friend matches?
After more than 5,800 events in locations all around the UK, we have seen those who have the certain secrets to go on and get lots of matches, but equally those who haven’t too. Here is what we believe creates the difference:
Be yourself rather than somebody else on the night. Let them see you for you and don’t cover up or mask your areas of vulnerability. Women actually want to see a man who isn’t ‘hung up about hang ups’ and who is honest enough to admit his faults and foibles. Its an endearing quality so be honest and straight forward and don’t be afraid to let them see the real you!
Create some certainty
Ladies love certainty and permanency in their lives but that doesn’t mean you need to have a fancy house or apartment and drive a Ferrari or that they want you to get engaged or married to them. It may not involve even a long term relationship but what they are looking for on the night is for a man to give them the certainty of a great first date and the chance to explore whether or not there is any chemistry there. Be confident enough to portray this certainty and you’ll get plenty of ticks and future dates to enjoy.
Don’t relive your emotional past
Human Beings remember things that happened in the presence of emotion and that is how memories are formed. And it is easy to relive situations from the past, rather than what is happening to us right now and that is exactly the wrong way to play things with a new lady. You may have got dumped 6 months ago and on occasions little triggers can bring it all back. Building a successful new relationship necessitates breaking those connections and stopping living in the past. Take each new situation as an opportunity for the future. Women aren’t attracted to emotional baggage so make sure you are positive and forward looking.
Don’t think success is the be all and end all
Some guys think that money, power and success is everything that women want and if they can provide it, Bingo their problems will be over. Sadly this couldn’t be further away from the truth. A sensible and rounded man understands that he is responsible for his own success with women and that it is down to him and his personality more than the trappings of wealth and success, which some women can actually find intimidating. Understanding this is fundamental to your success with ladies in the future. Become the type of mature, rounded sensible but fun guy that women find it really hard to resist.
Don’t be afraid to make mistakes
Some of the most successful and sexually powerful men learned the fundamentals of success over many years and you can too. Success and the understanding of where it comes from comes over time and can’t be rushed, but it’s great fun learning over the years, failing sometimes but having lots of fun along the way too. We have some guys who have been to literally dozens of events and quite often they get ticked by 5 or 6 women every time. So if you’re not quite there yet, enjoy the journey, make a few mistakes along the way and remember it’s only yourself that is watching and being critical.