End A Relationship Considerately

How To End A Relationship Considerately

There is always the debate about who ends a relationship more considerately, men or women.

Of course, there are always two sides to this coin. Women are probably most likely going to say that they end relationships more considerately and men will probably say that they end relationships more considerately.

Seeing as there will always be a split between the two we thought we would look at something even more simple.

How to actually end a relationship considerately and this applies to both genders.

Both people in a relationship are always going to feel pain during a breakup, especially for the person who is being told they are being dumped.

Relationship break ups are a terrible situation to be in overall but they are an inevitable part of many relationships in life and there isn’t much you can do about it.

What you can do though especially if you are the one ending the relationship is do so in a way that is respectable and considerate.

Let’s look at how you can do that.

  1. Do it in private and face-to-face – Your partner at least deserves you to do this to their face. So make sure when you get to do this that you do it in private and in a face-to-face conversation.
  1. Never tell friends or family before you tell your partner – This is just horrible so make sure that you at least tell your partner before you go blurting out to friends and family what you are about to do.

This is really all you need to remember. Forget everything else and remember that you need to be somewhere private when you do it and tell it to their face. Also, make sure you never tell friends and family before it actually happens because someone will inevitably say something to someone else, which is extremely disrespectful.

That is really all there is to remember about ending a relationship considerately. So focus on those two things and ignore the rest.


Interesting Speed Dating Questions

If You Want To Succeed With Speed Dating You Need To Ask More Interesting Questions

Okay, so there is more to succeeding at speed dating than simply asking interesting questions.

There are factors such as dressing appropriately, your behaviour in general and other factors.

However, the conversational factor is a big one and the reality is that conversation plays a significant role in whether or not there will be any spark and attraction between two people. Conversation is so crucial because it’s how we form connections with one another and this is what eventually turns into that initial spark, chemistry and then a deeper connection and asking interesting speed dating questions are a must.

So how do you have an interesting conversation then?

How do you have a conversation that will stick out in your partner’s mind so that they will remember you, and mostly you out of the dozen or so people they’ll meet on the night?

It almost seems like it’s impossible but it isn’t.

Here are a few guidelines you should stick to if you want to have an interesting conversation.

First, is to simply ask interesting questions. We know that seems extremely vague at first glance but let’s explore what we mean a little deeper.

One thing you should do is not spend your time talking about your work or asking your date questions about their work.

This is boring and it’s a topic we hear time and time again. People at a speed-dating event don’t want to talk about their jobs.

Instead, talk about some crazy things.

What is the craziest thing you’ve done in your life?

What is the thing you are most proud of in your life?

Have you ever done anything dangerous and if so, what was it?

These kinds of questions are examples but it gives you an idea about how you can proceed asking more interesting questions.

If you can ask these kinds of interesting, different questions then it will stick out in your date’s mind much more than asking the same old, boring questions we hear all the time.

Singles Nights Out Nottingham

Meet New People, Have Fun And Find Love With Singles Nights Out Nottingham

Do you struggle being able to meet like-minded singles who are in your age group?

This is a common problem for many people especially those people in an older age group because they often struggle to find events or venues where they can meet the kind of people they are looking for.

However, this isn’t just a problem restricted to singles in an older age bracket.

Singles of all ages have problems meeting new people but particularly the right kind of people for love. Great news is that there is an easy solution to this problem, a solution so easy that you’ll be amazed you haven’t thought of it before!

The easiest and most effective solution to this problem is singles nights out Nottingham. A singles night out organised by When The Music Stops is by far the most effective solution because you will be surrounded by people who are your own age group, single and are looking for the same things as you.

No doubt you have experienced the problem when you go out to a bar or a club and you want to meet new people. However, you may lock eyes with a cute girl or guy but never know whether or not they are really open to anything further developing.

A singles night Nottingham certainly takes away that element of uncertainty to a large degree. You can spend time with people who are like you, your own age and you know that you are already off to a good start.

A good way to look at it is to imagine that you are fishing in a river where you know that there is a high chance you’ll catch the exact kind of fish you are looking for!

So check out when our next singles events will be. We offer various events each month so there will surely be something that takes your fancy.

Finding That Spark – What is Chemistry?

What Is Chemistry And Why Do You Struggle To Generate It?

Chemistry. Finding That Spark!

We have all heard about it and we all know it. Most of us have probably experienced it at some time or another.

However, some people may struggle to generate any kind of chemistry when out on dates and feel clueless about what it even is.

So what even is chemistry?

Chemistry is nothing but a FEELING. It’s that feeling you get when you feel a combination of intense sexual attraction to someone and an emotional connection with them and is often referred to as finding that spark, when two people feel attracted to each other or immediately hit it off.

You may be at a point now where you struggle to generate chemistry with the people you date and finding that spark may seem elusive, but no doubt you are at least familiar with it and would have experienced it at some point.

So why would someone struggle to generate these kinds of feelings?

There are two main reasons why.

  1. Being too afraid to show your sexual attraction to a woman
  2. Not connecting with anything she says

Both are relatively easy to fix.

Being too afraid to show sexual attraction to a woman is a large part down to worrying too much about her reaction, that is, if she’ll reject you.

A truth is that you cannot control the reactions of other people so this fear is completely irrational. She is either going to like you or not like you and that is completely normal.

So you need to show your interest. Tell her what is attractive about her, hold her hand, show her you think she is attractive. If she doesn’t like you then it’s nothing personal.

Remember, you cannot possibly control the reactions of other people.

Not connecting in many cases is simply because you are not listening properly and then elaborating on what she says. Actually listen to her. All women want a guy that will listen to them.

Then make some statements about the topic, share your own stories on the topic. Connecting is all about sharing stories and experiences. Show her that you understand her.

It can be frustrating when you struggle to generate chemistry but try following the pieces of advice above and you should find that things become a little easier.

The End Of The 3 Day Waiting Rule

The End Of The  Three Day Waiting Rule

Have you ever heard of the silly 3 day waiting rule?

This is a very old dating rule, which basically states that once you’ve gone out on a first date with someone that you should wait until three days have passed before you contact them again.

No one really knows where this whole idea came from but this is a completely outdated idea.

Maybe it did have its place once upon a time but it doesn’t anymore and we are going to delve into that a bit more in this post.

The whole premise behind abiding to this rule was that it ensured that you wouldn’t come across as needy or desperate to your partner. In particular, it seemed as if this rule was aimed at men more so than women.

Now while it is good to not be needy or desperate, abiding by this 3 day rule is just silly.

Here is why.

You’ve just had an amazing first date with someone.

You’ve gotten along with each other brilliantly. Had a lot to talk about, formed a great initial connection with that person.

At this point both of you are going to be feeling on a natural high so wouldn’t it make sense to make the most of it? You are both going to be thinking about each other and how amazing your time was together.

You need to capitalise on this and waiting three days to contact your date again could mean that spark you felt during the date dies.

All you need to do is send your partner a simple text message the next day letting them know you enjoyed spending time with them and hope to do so again soon and that’s it.

This shows appreciation, you care and it’s much better than waiting three days to send this kind of text.

Secondly, it allows you to quickly organise when you can catch up for a second date.

It’s that simple so don’t adhere to this silly three day waiting rule.

All it takes is a very simple text message the next day that shows your appreciation and you can continue getting to know this amazing person. Who knows what it could lead to after that but that is the best part.

Are Your Online Dating Photos Really Safe?

We know that many people flock to online dating sites in their journey to find love.

We also know that many of these sites lack some basic confidentiality and security measures and this has been demonstrated before by negative publicity that shows cases of fraud, identity theft and more.

So how certain can you be sure that your online dating photos are really safe?

Facts are that you can’t really be sure and we know this because many of these sites do not take the kind of precautionary measures to guarantee a member’s confidentiality.

The problem is that when you create an account on an online dating site that information is essentially available for viewing to the public. Anyone else can see your photos if they have an account and they can even end up being sourced from the site itself.

If that happens then who knows where they could end up online.

There was an incident recently of a young woman in Texas, America who discovered that selfies that she had put on her Facebook profile had been used by an escort service to advertise their business. Her personal photos for herself and her friends had been turned into online dating photos for an adult site without her consent!

The young woman in question then began receiving phone calls from anonymous men asking her if she was still working as an escort!

While in this example the woman had her selfies taken from her Facebook profile, it’s important to remember that information on Facebook is also public viewing. This is exactly the same for online dating sites.

Imagine the kind of humiliation and ridicule you would be feeling if something similar like what happened in the example above happened to you.

It would be a terrible thing to go through and the easiest way to avoid any potential embarrassment like this is to simply avoid using an online dating site.

Keep this in mind next time you are thinking about joining an online dating site because this same thing could potentially happen to you.

Why Are Your Bored With Dating?

Why Are Your Bored With Dating?

Are you at the point where you are bored with dating? Where it just doesn’t excite you anymore?

At some point we are all going to go through this phase and it’s completely normal. There are numerous reasons as to why we all end up going through this phase and it varies for each person.

Some people may simply feel unmotivated because they are so busy with their career, therefore they just don’t have the time to go out and meet new people. Some people may have experienced a harsh breakup and are now struggling to move past it. Others may even have a self-esteem problem that affects their ability to confidently go out and meet new people.

So the reasons why one may experience the boredom with dating varies.

What you need to do is get excited about dating and meeting new people again. However, we all know that we need more than willpower to make something like this happen.

You need to do something different to put the excitement back into your dating life.

Try different things and meet different kinds of people. One of the most effective ways to meet new people that is also different and exciting is speed-dating events.

It’s an alternative method of dating. You meet lots of different people. And perhaps the real beauty of it is that it won’t take up too much of your time.

This is a great way to put some excitement back into your dating life and besides, there is a good chance you may end up meeting a great partner through it.

The only way to know is to try and find out and so get in touch to see when the next speed-dating event is in your area.

Meet Plenty Of New People With Speed Dating Nottingham

How You Can Meet Plenty Of New People With Speed Dating Nottingham

UK singles are fed up. They are trying to meet new people, they are looking for love but nothing seems to be working.

Even the trend of heading straight towards an online dating site is beginning to die and more and more frustrated singles are looking for a more proven alternative.

We know that being able to meet a lot of new people is getting more and more difficult especially considering the amount of emphasis people are placing on building a career.

People are time strapped and they are busy so the last thing they need are dating methods that are inefficient and wasteful. Well, you can get more than that when you try speed dating and other organised dating events.

These events are the best way for you to meet new people because you know what they are there for before you even get there – they are looking to meet new people.

That is the beauty of it. So you can try speed-dating Nottingham and have a decent shot at meeting a new person. You never know, this person you meet could end up being your next partner.

I hope you can see why this is a much more efficient method of meeting new people compared to methods such as online dating.

With speed dating events you know that you are going to meet a lot of new people in a very short period of time, making it perfect for you if you are strapped for time and are looking to find love.

It’s the perfect combination so you’ve got nothing to lose by attending a speed-dating event in Nottingham this summer.

Now is the time to meet new people and find love so let’s hope you make the

How Successful Can Speed Dating Be?

How Successful Can Speed Dating Be?

Have you ever tried speed dating? Ever wondered about how much success you could have with it?

Speed dating is one of those methods of dating that is a relatively new concept. Many people have never really considered speed dating as a legitimate dating option. Maybe people have beliefs about it being gimmicky, or that they simply have little chance of meeting a decent partner through it. Perhaps they are even worried about what their friends and others will think if they meet a great partner through speed dating.

There are all sorts of reasons why people skip speed dating but there are so many reasons why you should give it a try. The facts are that you are missing out on a goldmine of opportunity to meet plenty of great people.

The concept itself is brilliant. You’ve got maybe a few minutes and in this time you can meet loads of potential partners. The great thing about this is that you can meet so many people and this allows you to see who you click with, and have any chemistry with.

What could be better than that?

There are many people who do have success with speed dating but it really varies from person to person. It all depends on what you want as well because each person is going to be looking for different things. You can also have so much fun with speed dating.

Many people in fact report being surprised at how much fun they’ve during previous speed dating events. After all, why shouldn’t you have fun? Dating is a fun experience and one that should be cherished, not made to feel like some kind of chore.

Regarding the question of how successful speed dating can be, it really depends on you and how much success you want to get from it. The only way to find that out is by trying.

Check out our list of events to see when the next speed dating event near you is taking place, and be sure to register for a night of great fun.

4 Dating Tips For Introverts That Will Make Your Dates More Fun

4 Dating Tips For Introverts That Will Make Your Dates More Fun

Dating is always tougher for introverts. We know that they are shy and they suffer from it more so than other people. However, there are ways that dating can still be a fun and smooth process for introverts.

Introverts experience more anxiety so the key is to make sure you take some steps to minimise the level of anxiety you feel so you feel completely confident being yourself on dates.

Here are some great tips you can use before your next date so you can loosen up a little and enjoy yourself more.

  1. Be honest – Let your date know that you are shy and feeling a little anxious about the date when you meet him or her. Honestly, it will feel like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders and make things easier for you.
  1. Go to places you feel comfortable at – If you feel more anxious at certain types of venues than others than don’t go to them. Again, be completely honest and go to venues where you feel the most comfortable.
  1. Enjoy the person you’re with – The more you like someone then the more you are going to feel more relaxed and comfortable being yourself. If you don’t really like the person you’re dating but are doing it out of convenience or some other reason then you are going to experience more anxiety.
  1. Take your time – If you need a little more time to open up then be honest about your feelings and let your date know. Sometimes taking time can be a good thing for both people especially if it helps you to feel more relaxed, open, and comfortable.

We know dating can be more difficult for introverts but with these four tips you will be able to loosen up a little and still have a great time dating.


Lots of different people for you to meet!

Find Love With Singles Events in Nottingham

Find Love With Singles Events in Nottingham

 There is no doubt that it’s getting harder and harder to find a great person to settle down with.

Some people seem to do it easily while it’s a lot harder for others. For many people it’s very hard to find enough time to meet quality people. All of us at some point want to be able to find a great partner to settle down with but we all know it’s not that easy all the time.

Especially if you are someone who works in a busy career where there is a lot expected of you. Good news is that there are ways that you can meet a lot of new people in as short a timespan as possible and it’s via singles events Nottingham.

Finding the time to meet new people is only half the battle because you could end up making time for this area of your life but still not meet a quality person to share your life with. So what you need to do is maximise your dating efforts so to speak. You need to be able to meet new people in a way whereby you can maximise your chances of meeting the right person.

Here are some of the prerequisites you need to be able to fit:

  1. They need to also be single and looking for the same things as you
  2. They need to have similar interests to you
  3. They need to be the kind of person you’d settle down with


At a singles event Nottingham there is a high chance you will end up meeting someone who fits these three prerequisites. You will meet many single people at the various events and this means by default you’ll end up with a high chance of meeting the right kind of people for a relationship.

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