Yet Another Online Dating Horror Story

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Another Dating Horror Story

One more sad tale of hurt and betrayal with online dating.

We have another dating horror story where a conman who stole cash, jewellery and cars from vulnerable women after meeting them on one of the UK’s biggest dating sites, once again lifts the lid on how much women are placing themselves in danger by using online dating sites recklessly.

Daniel Olley of Ipswich was jailed for 46 months, but incredibly is already in jail anyway serving 3 years for a string of almost identical cases in another part of the country and his case, quite frankly should provide a salutary lesson to all women using these sites to think carefully about whether or not the risks are actually worth it.

It was stated in court that one of the women was left so penniless that she could not afford to buy new winter clothes for her children after former mechanic Olley- stole hundreds of pounds from her and another mother had to get a taxi to visit her son in hospital after Olley stole her car.

Olley, who was living at a Kingsley Guest House in Ipswich, admitted offences of theft from four women and fraud relating to selling their cars.

He carried out the crimes between October and December last year, Ipswich Crown Court heard.

Jailing him for 46 months, Judge David Goodin said there was a ‘cynical cruelty’ to his offending and told him: ‘You are in effect a cautionary tale for vulnerable women’.

The judge said what Olley had done to the four women, three of whom he met on dating websites, was ‘horrid in the extreme’.

Incredibly however it was not his first offence and similar tales of woe can be traced to Clacton-on-Sea, Chelmsford and Hatfield are on record, in an area of crime that seems to be growing exponentially at the present time. And once again we would ask the question are dating events that are held in a safe, supervised and facilitated environment not a better and much safer way of meeting?

When the Music Stops checks and verifies the home address and postal code of every online booker as part of the booking process and keeps client records permanently too. Surely a safer scenario than someone who has undergone no checks whatsoever on many online sites?

Whilst our sister companies, Matchmakers Dating and Searchmate actually personally interviews and checks out every single joiner too.

Let’s be careful out there!


Untainted Love – Online Dating Scams

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Fake profiles, false messages, photo’s of celebrities, personal data being sold

What a nightmare!

But hey that’s what online dating companies have been doing for years according to the BBC’s investigation by their popular current affairs programme Panorama.

In what may well prove to be a massive problem for the online dating industry, the BBC’s reported finding photographs of Michael Caine, Brad Pitt and TV chef Rick Stein being passed off as ordinary daters, profiles featuring Australian citizens who have never been involved in online dating in their lives, as well as data being bought and sold including highly personal information that individuals have provided in good faith.

Plus teams of facilitators targeting people who have signed up for free and bombarding them with false profiles, with the single minded objective of getting them to pay up and join. Memberships that have sometimes gone on for months and years but where interest and the number of contacts suddenly dries up as soon as the payment has been made.

Online dating has been a fabulous success story over recent years, but is it being built on a series of falsehoods and fake profiles and if so, why on earth should the British public put up with it any longer?

For more than 10 years now When the Music Stops has provided high quality singles dating events all around the UK, with more than 5,700 successful events under our belts during that decade and where people can meet and check out potential partners face to face, right from the outset, which we believe is vital to any sort of relationship if it is going to be successful, as having a ‘spark’ is everything.

You are also likely to see more dates in a night than you probably would online in 6 months or more, which has got to be so much better than emailing or messaging backwards and forwards for weeks or even months without ever getting near to a date. Especially as we know now that many of the profiles, especially those targeting you when you’re new, may be false anyway!

We can also make you a firm promise that:

1) We have never used false profiles

2) We have never passed on any sort of data to a third party company, outside of our own group

3) We do ask for a home address and phone number for all bookings before they are allowed to attend an event

4) We do ask for feedback about any problems encountered and are happy to investigate any that are reported

Our events include Singles Holidays, Black Tie Events, Dinner Parties, Weekend Breaks, Speed Dating, Singles Parties, Casino Nights, Barbeques, Meet and Greet, Singles Networking and much much more. And booking is easy and safe from our events page, click here to visit.

Want to read the whole story? Then visit the BBC’s own site by clicking here.

When you are ready to date after divorce?

Is it too soon to date?

How soon is too soon to date after divorce

This month began with a very public feud between a recently separated A-list husband and A-list wife. The glamorous couple were married for seven years before splitting up in January earlier this year.

After photographs appeared showing the Wife named Heidi and her bodyguard looking close, the husband named Seal publicly expressed his annoyance. He commented: “I would of thought that Heidi would have shown a little more class and at least waited until we separated first before deciding to fornicate with the help, as it were.”

Following Heidi’s angry response which described her husband’s comment as “untruths”, Seal’s representative stated: “Seal would like to clarify that he was not implying his wife was cheating on him while they were together.

“But rather he was pointing out that they are separated and the divorce is not final so they are legally still married.”

As there seems to be a constant stream of celebrity break-ups followed by the media, it seems that we should try and make use of them in some way and learn from others’ mistakes.

Undoubtedly, this star-studded dispute goes to remind separated couples who are going through very similar situations, of an unanswered question on their lips: just how soon is ‘too soon’ to date after a divorce or during a separation?

We feel this is an important question to not only ask your ‘separatee’ husband/wife, but to also ask yourself.

After pondering this question, we decided it was time for some expert advice. So we asked Dating coach David Wygant – when should someone begin dating after separating from a partner?

David answered, “Do not even think of dating after you’re divorced until you are 100% sure that you are fully healed and feeling great again.

“One bad date can throw you back into the arms of the dreaded ex and that can cause you even more pain in the long run.

“Heal and take your time and when you’re ready to date again, then have fun and realise that being single means you have a chance to do it right this time.”

We concur!

(At least you don’t have to worry about your post-separation dating escapades going public!)


UK Dates for rainy days

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Alternative dates – for when the weather is against you – Dates for Rainy Days

So you’ve been to a When The Music Stops singles dating event and secured a date. Checking through the weather forecast for the upcoming week, you realise that your plan for that romantic summer date is now lost to the dreadful rainy ‘summer’ weather.

There is probably a scrapyard somewhere for romantic walks in the park, picnics, evening in the beer garden and trips to the beach which will have all been washed away by our constant downpours of rain!

So we thought it was about time we provided some ideas for a rainy date.

Salsa dancing

Find your local salsa dancing class. As well as being a great ice breaker, salsa dancing is loads of fun and is even a good spot of exercise. On future dates salsa can be practiced at your home and you never know, you could have just found your new hobby.

Wine tasting

Wine can settle those first date nerves so why not book two places at a wine tasting evening and become wine connoisseurs together!

Ice Skating

Be adventurous and go ice-skating. This can be a good laugh and you won’t be worrying about when it is the right moment to do this as your date will soon be grabbing your hand; what a great excuse!

Rent a movie

Instead of trudging through the torrential downpour to the cinema, try renting a movie together instead and make those nights in on the sofa more entertaining with some of your own microwavable popcorn and snacks.

Indoor picnic

Don’t let the weather ruin your plans for a romantic picnic. Bring the park to your home and have an indoor picnic instead! At least here you will be allowed candles!

With these interesting (and most importantly romantic) date ideas, your When The Music Stops singles dating success will not be washed away.

Photoshop and Disappointment – Online Dating

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Online Dating – a try before you buy scheme but without the guarantee?

It is said that humans judge a person within the first three seconds of meeting them. The same statistic probably applies online too. Especially when viewing someones dating profile.


Valentines Day: Whats the big deal?

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A blog a day… Our Dating Blog

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Welcome to the When the Music Stops Dating Blog

First of all can we please welcome you to the When the Music Stops Dating Blog.

Whether you’re new to dating and When the Music Stops or an old hand that has been around a fair while and attended lots of events already, you’re very welcome and we hope you will find it informative and entertaining. We’ll be adding articles on all sorts of dating subjects and issues, some of it will be hard hitting and controversial, but usually we will have a view and we hope that you will too.


Welcome to When the Music Stops

Welcome to the When the Music Stops Dating Blog

Blogging and When the Music Stops

As the lead web developer at When the Music, I have been asked very nicely to create a blog for our dating franchise business and here it is! Frequent blog readers should find a familiar feel to our blog as we are using a very commonly used system. This I would like to add is not entirely due to my own laziness but because I think it offers an extremely good platform to our readers and also our writers.

So what is a blog?

According to Google: “A Web site on which an individual or group of users record opinions, information, etc. on a regular basis.”
In my experience not all blogs are equal. Some have 3 posts from 2008 and haven’t had much to add since. Some blogs seem to host the ramblings of people that aren’t entirely specific about why they are blogging or even existing on this planet. We hope to follow some of the exceptional blogs out there that capture the hearts and minds of people truly interested in a given subject and where you will find frequent (although not too much so) new posts that are easy to read and fun to digest.

What is our blog all about?

Well I sincerely hope it will be far more interesting than this first post, but we all have to start somewhere! Our blog is intended to tell you about what we are really passionate about.. ‘dating’ .. not blogs. Dating is commonly interpreted as a pretty dirty subject, particularly when it comes to online dating and dating websites. Doesn’t always have to be the case. Our business has been happily running since 2003 to bring real life bonefide single people together to find friendship, companionship, happiness, love, confidence, fun, enjoyment and many other good things besides.
Our company is run by a great team of honest and hardworking individuals that are motivated by bringing single people together in a safe and enjoyable environment and really this blog is all about how we do that and to share with you some of the more interesting experiences along the way – without of course compromising anyone’s privacy.

You will be hearing from many of the great people in the team on our blog, from Mike the Managing Director and our many brilliant event organisers and ‘Matchmakers’, right the way down to me and the other people lurking here in the cob-webbed storage cupboard that beaver away to make our website work!

So, happy reading and if there’s anything I can do to make your reading more enjoyable, please ask.

Lots of different people for you to meet!

Find Love With Singles Events in Nottingham

Find Love With Singles Events in Nottingham

 There is no doubt that it’s getting harder and harder to find a great person to settle down with.

Some people seem to do it easily while it’s a lot harder for others. For many people it’s very hard to find enough time to meet quality people. All of us at some point want to be able to find a great partner to settle down with but we all know it’s not that easy all the time.

Especially if you are someone who works in a busy career where there is a lot expected of you. Good news is that there are ways that you can meet a lot of new people in as short a timespan as possible and it’s via singles events Nottingham.

Finding the time to meet new people is only half the battle because you could end up making time for this area of your life but still not meet a quality person to share your life with. So what you need to do is maximise your dating efforts so to speak. You need to be able to meet new people in a way whereby you can maximise your chances of meeting the right person.

Here are some of the prerequisites you need to be able to fit:

  1. They need to also be single and looking for the same things as you
  2. They need to have similar interests to you
  3. They need to be the kind of person you’d settle down with


At a singles event Nottingham there is a high chance you will end up meeting someone who fits these three prerequisites. You will meet many single people at the various events and this means by default you’ll end up with a high chance of meeting the right kind of people for a relationship.

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